Being considerate of the circumstances or the feelings of those with whom I walk in life, be they family members, patients or colleagues, is a way of recognizing that I share a common humanity. It is a way of putting myself in someone else’s shoes and realizing each of us has ups and downs. Being considerate is being merciful and is an effort to understand. It doesn’t mean it will always be easy and it doesn’t say that I should never expect some accountability from myself and others.
Life is a messy business. If I try to get everything in perfect order, I know I’m going to be frustrated. I want to give things time. Giving consideration before I make judgments is a way of recognizing that life does not always unfold in neat and orderly patterns. In the midst of chaos, I want to allow some time for reflection and consider if there is any beauty to be found in it. It’s like seeing a sun painted lake on a cold winter day.
I want to be the kind of healer that is comfortable with the ambiguity in life. Carefully and deliberately considering the needs of others and my own needs requires a beginning acceptance of things as they are in this moment. If it’s raining or snowing, I’m going to start right there with the elements and not name them bad or good. The situation may require some planning on my part, but I don’t have to judge it.
Eternal Mercy, help me to consider the situations of every person I meet. Let me be open to hear and feel all that is going on in my life and the lives of those around me. Knowing full well that life unfolds and is not stagnant, never let me lose the fascination to reflect upon the twists and turns of the journey with openness and grace. Guide me as I courageously bring my heart to bear in all my interactions. AMEN.
ACTION: Consider your willingness to put yourself in the shoes of someone else. Do you find it easy or a challenge? Think about the people who formed your attitude of considerateness. Let them know it made a difference.